最近有很多热心网友都十分关心《鹤唳华亭》：遇到糟糕的原生家庭怎么办？最近热播的《鹤唳华亭》频上热搜这个问题。还有一部分人想了解。对此，哈哈娱乐网小编「梦已隔江南」收集了相关的教程，希望能给你带来帮助。

最近热播的《鹤唳华亭》频上热搜，而就在昨天由《鹤唳华亭》引发的热搜话题是：中国式父子为何难相处？遇到糟糕的原生家庭怎么办？其实最近几年涉及这种原生家庭的电视剧有很多，像之前的热播剧《都挺好》、《欢乐颂》都曾涉及到原生家庭的问题，这些由父母兄弟姐妹带来的伤害也给观众带来了很多的共鸣！

《鹤唳华亭》中引发热议的是作为皇帝的萧睿鉴，同时作为一名父亲在对待两个儿子的态度上却天差地别。弟弟齐王萧定棠犯了错就跟爹爹撒娇抱大腿，而哥哥太子殿下萧定权受到的却是怒火和打骂。我们作为观众作为旁观者可以看到父亲萧睿鉴作为严父的心，他一心想要将太子萧定权培养成一名更强大更有能力的接班人，对他格外严厉。可是萧定权作为局中人即使他感受得到，理解得了父亲的一片好心，可是他收到的伤害也是实实在在的。这份因为父亲的不公平对待带来的伤害将会伴随他的一生，也许他要花一辈子来治愈这份伤痛。没错！在感受到父母所说的“都是为你好”之前，孩子先感受到的是伤害！

前一阵子引起全民观剧热潮的《都挺好》讲的就是一个糟糕的原生家庭所引起的一系列父母子女以及兄弟姐妹之间的矛盾。这个家庭母不慈子不孝，兄不友弟不恭，儿女反目，这一切追根究底最大的“元凶”是父母。苏母重男轻女，对于女儿苏明玉不愿付出一点母爱，自始至终认为女儿就是“赔钱货”；而父亲懦弱无能，在自己的妻子面前唯唯诺诺，不敢给女儿撑腰。这样的原生家庭对苏明玉来说就是一场噩梦！导致她即使成年之后事业取得巨大的成功也自始至终活在痛苦之中不可自拔，最后拯救她的还是罹患老年痴呆的父亲的那一本迟到了十几年的“习题册”！

《欢乐颂》里面的樊胜美其实是更多中国式女儿的真实写照，她的父母兄嫂不像亲人，更像一群吸血鬼。她不像苏明玉一样有成功的事业，没有能力逃离原生家庭，只能忍气吞声，任人宰割。她的父母眼中只有儿子，即使这个儿子好吃懒做一事无成。樊胜美看似风光在大城市里生活却举步维艰，她用榨干自己的方式喂饱家庭，可是让人心寒的是她的家是一个永远都填不完的窟窿和一颗颗永远都捂不热的心。樊胜美好像永远也逃离不出这个原生家庭的深渊！

遇到糟糕的原生家庭怎么办？除了极少数幸运的人之外，其实大部分人或多或少都有来自原生家庭带来的伤害，因为人无完人，我们的父母也不是完美的，何况他们也是初次为人父母，但是只要父母真的爱我们，我们就可以凭着这份爱一路前行治愈自己。如果真的像苏明玉、樊胜美或者萧定权一样那么糟糕的话，那就加倍爱自己，因为除了自救别无出路！

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【英文介绍/For English】：

The recently popular "Crane Huating" has been frequently searched, and the hot search topic triggered by "Crane Huating" just yesterday is: Why are Chinese-style fathers and sons difficult to get along with? What should I do if I encounter a bad family of origin? In fact, in recent years, there have been many TV dramas involving this kind of native family, such as the previous hit dramas "Everything is Good" and "Ode to Joy", which have involved the problem of native families. The harm caused by parents, brothers and sisters has also given The audience brought a lot of resonance!

In "Crane Huating", it is Xiao Ruijian who is the emperor who caused heated discussions. At the same time, as a father, his attitude towards his two sons is very different. The younger brother Qi Wang Xiao Dingtang made a mistake and hugged his father coquettishly, while his elder brother, His Royal Highness Xiao Dingquan, received anger, beatings and scolding. As an audience and a bystander, we can see the heart of his father Xiao Ruijian as a strict father. He wholeheartedly wants to train the prince Xiao Dingquan into a stronger and more capable successor, so he is extremely strict with him. But even if Xiao Dingquan could feel and understand his father's kindness as a player in the game, the harm he received was real. This injury caused by his father's unfair treatment will accompany him throughout his life, and it may take him a lifetime to heal this injury. That's right! Before feeling what the parents said "it's all for your own good", the child feels hurt first!

"Everything is Good", which caused a wave of drama watching by the whole people a while ago, is about a series of conflicts between parents, children and brothers and sisters caused by a bad native family. In this family, the mother is not kind and the son is not filial, the brother is not friendly and the brother is disrespectful, and the children are against each other. The biggest "culprit" of all this is the parents. Su's mother favors sons over daughters, and she is unwilling to give any maternal love to her daughter Su Mingyu, and she always thinks that her daughter is "losing money"; while the father is cowardly and incompetent, submissive in front of his wife, and dare not support his daughter. Such a native family is a nightmare for Su Mingyu! Even though she achieved great success in her career as an adult, she was still living in pain from beginning to end. In the end, it was the "exercise book" written by her father suffering from Alzheimer's that was more than ten years late!

Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy" is actually a true portrayal of more Chinese-style daughters. Her parents, brothers and sisters-in-law are not like relatives, but more like a group of vampires. She doesn't have a successful career like Su Mingyu, and she doesn't have the ability to escape from her original family, so she can only swallow her anger and let others slaughter her. Her parents only have a son in their eyes, even if this son is lazy and achieves nothing. Fan Shengmei seems to be living in a big city in a beautiful way, but she is struggling. She feeds her family by squeezing herself dry, but what makes people feel chilling is that her home is a hole that can never be filled. heart of. Fan Shengmei seems to never be able to escape the abyss of this native family!

What should I do if I encounter a bad family of origin? Except for a very few lucky people, in fact, most people have more or less harm from their original families, because no one is perfect, and our parents are not perfect, not to mention they are also parents for the first time, but as long as Parents really love us, and we can go all the way to heal ourselves with this love. If it is really as bad as Su Mingyu, Fan Shengmei or Xiao Dingquan, then love yourself more, because there is no way out but to save yourself!

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