最近有很多热心网友都十分关心《都挺好》：勇于接受父母的“不完美”这个问题。还有一部分人想了解。对此，哈哈娱乐网小编「戎马作衬」收集了相关的教程，希望能给你带来帮助。

最近热播的、由姚晨担任女主角的电视剧《都挺好》，不少人在观看过程中，恐怕都越看越为明玉（姚晨饰）鸣不平，并都感同身受：苏家的不和谐，完全是苏家父母多方面的“不完美”造成的。

苏家父母的“不完美”有哪些？至少有三：其一，重男轻女。电视剧中，老大明哲要去外国留学，苏家为了给他筹够钱日常生活开支费，宁可卖了明玉的卧室也要让明哲到国外去。相反，明玉想要家里的钱买点复习资料都不肯；其二，爱面子。得知明哲成功考入了美国的大学后的苏家父母，明知自身经济承受力不够，仍然“打肿脸充胖子”，邀请到七大姑八大姨来家庆贺，足见其爱面子到何种程度；其三，接人待物全凭喜好。苏家母亲爱二儿子明成胜过一切，只要是明成提的要求，皆倾力支持。比如，在家庭经济本身就困难的情况下，明成提出要“借”家里的钱外出旅游，以庆祝自己找到了工作，而这一“借”就是几千块，可明玉想要不到千元的补习费，却被苏母硬生生地给堵了回来。

苏家父母林林总总的“不完美”，给往后的苏家带来了诸多的问题和矛盾：当苏母去世后，明成和明玉的关系越发地僵硬，甚至在一次审计事件中，因涉及明成老婆朱丽切身利益，明成对明玉大打出手，更是让兄妹之间的关系更是降到了“冰点”……

《都挺好》剧情之所以受到热捧，恰恰是当今社会50、60年代父母，70、80年代子女的真实写照。50、60年代的父母受封建传统文化思想影响较深，重男轻女、自身文化程度不高又吃尽了生活的苦头，家庭里基本上都有2到3个子女；70、80年代的子女在改革开放年代出生成长，思想开明，自我意识强烈，却无依无靠，基本靠自己打拼或啃老。

这些现实境况，往往易使50、60年代出生的父母，在处理家庭事务过程中，难以“一碗水端平”；而70、80年代出生的子女，也容易因思想认识的明朗，在追求公平、获得尊重、要求父母对自己更多的爱的需求上，会比以往任何一个年代都要强烈。这些思想观念或者相互间处理问题方式的严重不对称，便容易导致整个家庭矛盾升级，愈演愈烈。这也是《都挺好》电视剧的重要看点之一。

作为苏家的“局外人”，我们在观看这部《都挺好》电视剧的同时，亟需思考的问题是：如何从电视剧中获得相应启示、更加正确地处理好家庭关系？那就是，勇于接受父母的“不完美”。可以说，作为50、60年代出生的父母，因受整个社会的传统习惯的影响，走到现在，观念也好，思想也罢，已然根深蒂固，难以改变；而作为人子，在处理家庭矛盾中，首先想到的应当是父母的恩情，而不是挑剔父母的缺陷。在父母恩情下，或许看似大事情，其实都是小事情；看似大问题，其实都是小问题。

有一句话说，你所经历的苦难，终将成为你通往成功之路的铺垫。从另一个角度看《都挺好》，如果没有苏母当年的狠心，明玉便难有如今的成就。从这个意义上讲，苏母对明玉留下的磨难，反而成为了明玉成长成功的“垫脚石”。当然，我们并非弘扬父母“无意”的恶意，而是在当时的现实环境中，父母的行为已然变得那么的自觉和不自觉。这种自觉或不自觉，已难以考究父母的有意或无意。这便是时代的悲剧，是历史的悲剧。时代造成了父母的“不完美”。更何况，金无足赤，人无完人。

既然父母的“不完美”是一种“铁定”，是一种历史环境造成的事实，那么，作为子女，我们就应当站在历史的角度，站在现实的角度，勇于接受并且宽容父母的“不完美”。在现实生活中，我们的老父老母的所作所为，有时候也许会变得非常地固执，有时候会非常地懒惰，也有的时候会非常地不可理喻，甚至让人感到失望、气愤……然而，父母的“不完美”，并非不可体谅。这就要求我们要多一些宽容，少一些指责；多一分关心，少一分责备；多一点笑容，少一点冷漠；多一些交流，少一些敷衍，努力营造和谐和睦家庭氛围，真正让他们过得安心、舒心、开心、顺心，这既是我们应当有的为人处世的方式，更是我们的责任所在。

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【英文介绍/For English】：

The recently hit TV series "Everything is Good" with Yao Chen as the heroine, many people may feel more and more grievances for Mingyu (played by Yao Chen) during watching, and they all feel the same: the disharmony of the Su family , It was entirely caused by the "imperfections" of the Su family's parents in many aspects.

What are the "imperfections" of Su's parents? There are at least three: First, patriarchy. In the TV series, the boss Mingzhe is going to study abroad. In order to raise enough money for his daily living expenses, the Su family would rather sell Mingyu's bedroom and let Mingzhe go abroad. On the contrary, Mingyu refused to buy some review materials with the family's money; secondly, she wanted to save face. After learning that Mingzhe was successfully admitted to a university in the United States, the parents of the Su family knew that they were not financially able to bear it, so they still "swollen their faces and pretended to be fat". ; Third, receiving people and things depends entirely on preference. The mother of the Su family loves her second son Mingcheng more than anything else, and will fully support Mingcheng's request. For example, when the family's finances were difficult, Mingcheng proposed to "borrow" the family's money to travel to celebrate his finding a job, and this "borrow" was several thousand yuan, but Mingyu wanted less than a thousand yuan. Yuan's tutoring fee was blocked by Su's mother abruptly.

The "imperfections" of the Su family's parents have brought many problems and conflicts to the Su family in the future: after the death of Su's mother, the relationship between Mingcheng and Mingyu became more and more rigid. Mingcheng's wife, Zhu Li, has vital interests, and Mingcheng's fight against Mingyu has brought the relationship between siblings down to a "freezing point"...

The reason why the plot of "Everything is Good" is so popular is that it is a true portrayal of parents in the 50s and 60s and children in the 70s and 80s in today's society. Parents in the 1950s and 1960s were deeply influenced by feudal traditional culture and thought, they valued sons over daughters, their education level was not high, and they suffered all the hardships of life. Basically, there were 2 to 3 children in the family; children in the 70s and 80s Born and raised in the era of reform and opening up, he is open-minded and has strong self-awareness, but he has no one to rely on, and basically relies on his own hard work or gnawing at the old.

These realities often make it difficult for parents born in the 1950s and 1960s to "balance a bowl of water" in the process of handling family affairs; The need for fairness, respect, and more love from parents will be stronger than in any previous era. The serious asymmetry between these ideas or the way of dealing with problems will easily lead to the escalation and intensification of the conflicts in the whole family. This is also one of the important highlights of the TV series "Everything is Good".

As "outsiders" of the Su family, while watching this TV series "Everything is Good", we urgently need to think about the question: how to get corresponding inspiration from the TV series and handle family relationships more correctly? That is, the courage to accept the "imperfection" of parents. It can be said that as parents born in the 1950s and 1960s, due to the influence of the traditional habits of the whole society, the concepts and thoughts have been deeply ingrained and difficult to change; The first thing that comes to mind should be the kindness of the parents, not the flaws of the parents. With the kindness of parents, things that may seem big are actually small things; problems that seem big are actually small problems.

There is a saying that the suffering you experience will eventually pave the way for your success. Looking at "Everything Is Good" from another angle, if it weren't for the cruel heart of Su's mother back then, it would be difficult for Mingyu to achieve what she is today. In this sense, the ordeal Su's mother left for Mingyu became a "stepping stone" for Mingyu's growth and success. Of course, we are not promoting the "unintentional" malice of parents, but in the real environment at that time, the behavior of parents has become so conscious and unconscious. This kind of conscious or unconscious, it is difficult to examine the intentional or unintentional of the parents. This is the tragedy of the times, the tragedy of history. Time has created the "imperfection" of parents. What's more, there is no pure gold, and no one is perfect.

Since the "imperfection" of parents is a kind of "ironclination" and a fact caused by the historical environment, then, as children, we should stand in the perspective of history and reality, and be brave enough to accept and tolerate the "imperfection" of our parents. not perfect". In real life, the actions of our old parents may sometimes become very stubborn, sometimes very lazy, and sometimes very unreasonable, and even make people feel disappointed and angry... However However, the "imperfection" of parents is not unforgivable. This requires us to be more tolerant and less accusatory; more concerned and less blamed; more smiles and less indifferent; To be at ease, comfortable, happy, and comfortable, this is not only the way we should have in the world, but also our responsibility.

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